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Here’s How You Can Help Teenagers Get Over their Awkward Adoloscent Phase!

The beginning of adolescence can mean an awkward time for teenagers as they try hard to grapple with the emotional turbulence and the physical transformation. Those bothersome years cause many problems, ranging from voice change, aggravating acne, lanky limbs, and more. Besides that, they also battle identity crises. Teens and tweens of today face the same issues and insecurities of times immemorial. It just shows that the problems remain universal.

Respect their Feelings

While it is common for most parents to tone down the problems they are facing, it is important to acknowledge them, and for that, you need to believe them. Research says that teens experience the same problems that adult faces, but they experience them at great extremes. What parents think is overdoing, is in fact, very real. The turbulence of emotions is very real and must not be dismissed by disbelieving parents.

Driving on Emotion and Not Logic

The logical side of our brains fully develops until we reach the 25th year of our lives. While adolescents may feel through usual feelings of immense love, happiness, sadness, stress, and anxiety. But they can’t work on it because they lack the innate logistical ability, which only develops after 25.

Be Their Emotional Support System

Once you acknowledge their feelings, you will know what to expect. Teens and tweens go through several changes, such as physical, social, and hormonal, and they go through these emotions simultaneously. The kids may experience varying emotions, such as going through low-esteem and anxious thoughts. And that makes dealing with the rollercoaster of emotions all the more difficult.

However, the most predominant emotion happens to be confusion. Most adolescents do not know what’s going in their lives and what is bugging them? They go through an uncomfortable phase, and they don’t like it. In this uncomfortable phase of their lives, the least you can do is be their emotional support.

Embrace the Now of Their Phase

The biggest problem is thinking of this phase of life as a problem. Help them embrace this aspect and the awkward phase of their lives. Give them some space and allow them some time to grow, develop, and mature. Don’t make them drive away from this phase of life. Instead, help them go through it and make them realize that it is one of the most phases of their lives. Help them understand that this is completely natural. The sooner they come to terms with it, the better it is for them.

Patience is The Key

Teens don’t like to be patronized by adults, and what they need most in their lives is patience. You, as a parent, can help them develop patience, as when the going gets tough, the only way to endure the tough times is through a lot of patience, in fact, loads of it. You can solve a lot of problems by developing patience and lovingly approaching the issue.

Talk to Them

How can you help the kids endure the turbulent times in their lives by helping them learn from your experience?  Somehow listening to their parents going through a similar situation when they were teens makes them think that it’s all good, and they needn’t worry about their emotional problems quite so much. This will also help them deal with their angsty side better. Also, it is important to help them healthily express themselves. You, as a parent, must not overreact to their behavior. The calmer you are, the better your teen would learn to express themselves calmly and not get too agitated.

Make Your Teens Feel Safe

Ensure your kids feel safe at home. Once they feel that their home is a safe haven, they will express themselves better rather than let their feelings of insecurity take over. Always be truthful about expressing your feelings, don’t be insincere about expressing your feelings, and not excessive about praise either.

Your genuine expression of feelings can impact teens, who will strive to be genuine about their feelings too. Teens are susceptible and can see through real feelings and put on feelings. Just let the children know that they are loved and accepted, no matter what.
Also, always narrate the interesting and awkward incidents of your teenage years. Your and your child may have a good laugh over the entire episode, and they may empathize with you about your troubled teen days. With that, they will realize the feelings are real, natural, and the awkward phase will pass!

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