This Is How To Cope With Trauma

Mental HealthJanuary 16, 2018

Traumatic experiences can be a result of an assault, an accident, a disaster, or a sudden illness. Uncomfortable and disturbing feelings usually settle down but some just won’t. For example, after the death of a loved one, it is normal to feel shocked and be totally receptive at the moment. One undergoes a state of shock and denial; shock because it happened, and denial that such a thing could happen.

People take trauma differently. Some people have constant worries that the event may happen again in the future. Others feel helpless, the feeling of inability to fight the event, which makes them vulnerable. Some deal with it angrily and end up putting the blame on others. Still, there are those who feel guilty and start blaming themselves.

“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary. The people we trust with that important talk can help us know that we are not alone.” — Fred Rogers

To overcome trauma, you have to give yourself time to heal and accept what happened. You can opt to find out the answers to your questions than having to wonder all your life. It is best to talk to other people who have survived such occurrences as that would help you come to terms with what happened. Just like you, there are people who have been through a lot.

By talking about your experience, little by little you will see changes. It is okay and natural to cry. Take your time and get into a routine. You might get the feeling of losing appetite, but it is your responsibility to take care of yourself. Have regular meals even when you don’t feel the need to. You can express your frustrations by exercising, too.

“The shock of any trauma, I think, changes your life. It’s more acute in the beginning and after a little time, you settle back to what you were. However, it leaves an indelible mark on your psyche.” — Alex Lifeson

It is also acceptable to socialize with others and not talk about the things that terrify you. This could be the healing you need.

Don’t keep to yourself.

Bottled up feelings can turn into poison and can be detrimental to your health. Give yourself a chance to regroup and get back to normal. Never take any chemicals or artificial remedies to cope with the situation as they do not work in the long run.

Avoid major transitional leaps.

Decisions have to be made at one point, but try to put them off a little longer until your judgment is clear. If you have to make a decision, make sure that it is the best one in all angles. Take a bit of thought from other people’s perspective. This way, you will avoid getting yourself in a mess.

Seek PROFESSIONAL HELP

Ask for professional help if there is no improvement after a month. You need professional help if you have a hard time seeking support from people around you. Also, if you cannot overcome the feelings of extreme sadness, anxiety, and breakdown, talk to a counselor. Ask for help if your mood swings last longer than six weeks.